You can keep talking about how fat you are, but if you don't exercise & eat better you won't get healthier. You can complain about the state of your marriage, but if you won't work at fixing it you'll just stay miserable. You can complain to anyone who will listen about your job, but if you won't look for a solution you'll just stay keep hating it.
Too often people keep complaining about their current circumstances, but refuse to do anything to change it. Sometimes the best advice we can give people is to tell them to shut up and get to work.